Xochitl, Thank you deeply for these words. As a fellow mother whose experience with advocating for her child through the deeply flawed and racist health, educational and social systems, I deeply appreciate your words on this day. A little less isolated in my $&@# the 4th day.
“So I’ll continue along this path of disentanglement, knowing there is no returning to the naivety of my youth, where I believed her lies and felt pride in my connection to her.” I feel like this resonates to so much not just the USA but our concepts of family and white supremacy culture that is so deeply embedded in our lives. Thank you for writing this piece and for speaking up. We’re going to get you out 🙏🏼
The paragraph about Black and brown people feeling like Cinderella…hits so hard. Cause what is the first thing a white American says to you when you criticize this country? “Go back to where you came from”. This is such a powerful piece. Thank you, Xóchitl.
"The very virtues I’d once celebrated —freedom, justice, compassion — have been exposed to be mere lip service. The things I once believed could never be true was a facade. This country, built on the genocide of Indigenous people and the genocide and enslavement of Black people, was never about justice or liberty. Indeed, Indigenous people were seen as “merciless Indian savages” and Black people as “not fully human.” Of course a country built on that foundation would prove to be rotten to the core. The reality is that this — genocide and corruption — is who the USA has always been. "
Wow. I have no words. I had never considered the idea of the “motherland” and the feminine and the way that traps us “however, the USA is more like a white, abusive, tyrannical father”
Thank you so much for your profound truth-telling, Xochitl! I have experienced many parallels with "her" and the misogynist-shit-storm that is family court that has utter contempt for children.
Powerful words. As a Canadian with half their family in the USA, I relate to this both from their experiences and mine here. Many I know have had to have the same painful breakup with Canada. Once you see, you can’t unsee.
So powerful, thank you for sharing your story. I’ve got a lot to think about. It resonates with me so much how living here is changing me in a way I do not like - and me with so much privilege.
This is so powerful and resonating Xochitl (as far as I can go being a ww disabled and abused) thank you for writing this and sharing how this country has gaslit you and how hard you have had to fight for your son. For me, I got SSDI in months. MONTHS. ?!?! My son got a 504 in WEEKS. I get cancer care with the speed of an e-mail. It’s always been an abusive whitewashed white supremacist place. I will leave too someday, but today I fight for you. ✊🏼
Thank you for putting these feelings into words that resonate at my core. While I enjoy the privilege of moving through the world as a white woman, I have followed a similar path of seeing what the indoctrination of this whiteness is doing to my soul, and how it impacts those I love. I am so sorry for the pain and anguish your family has gone through to support your child through this maze of destruction.
Thank you so so much for sharing Xochitl! I deeply identify with some of what you wrote. And I am so sorry for the struggles you’ve experienced re:healthcare for your son.
I’m a white woman and I grew up in the Midwest. We weren’t overly patriotic but I used to feel really proud of the US. Especially around the military/war narrative (WWII, Afghanistan). We were bringing democracy to the world right? I started to change around the Iraq war (for some reason I didn’t have the same feelings about AFG). I hated our participation in this war and the manipulation it took to get there. I hated the faux patriotism it felt forced. Why for the love do we need all the fucking flags and national anthem before everything?! My then boyfriend, now husband joined the military to pay off student loans and I was proud of him but felt ambivalent about the military and all the fake feeling hoopla. Since then, I’ve seen how this country “values” its veterans and its atrocious. With each election since Gore v. Bush I’ve become more disillusioned. The government does not care about us. We don’t have a representative democracy. We worship profit over people. We need so much of this to die so we can rebuild it.
I felt this to my core Xochitl 🙏🏽❤️🇺🇸👋🏽
Xochitl, Thank you deeply for these words. As a fellow mother whose experience with advocating for her child through the deeply flawed and racist health, educational and social systems, I deeply appreciate your words on this day. A little less isolated in my $&@# the 4th day.
“So I’ll continue along this path of disentanglement, knowing there is no returning to the naivety of my youth, where I believed her lies and felt pride in my connection to her.” I feel like this resonates to so much not just the USA but our concepts of family and white supremacy culture that is so deeply embedded in our lives. Thank you for writing this piece and for speaking up. We’re going to get you out 🙏🏼
The paragraph about Black and brown people feeling like Cinderella…hits so hard. Cause what is the first thing a white American says to you when you criticize this country? “Go back to where you came from”. This is such a powerful piece. Thank you, Xóchitl.
The idea of America has broken all of hearts. Beautiful words, Xochitl. Time for us to collectively heal and move on.
Feeling all of it Xochitl, Thank you for sharing your story and lived experience. The U.S. is truly poisonous.
"The very virtues I’d once celebrated —freedom, justice, compassion — have been exposed to be mere lip service. The things I once believed could never be true was a facade. This country, built on the genocide of Indigenous people and the genocide and enslavement of Black people, was never about justice or liberty. Indeed, Indigenous people were seen as “merciless Indian savages” and Black people as “not fully human.” Of course a country built on that foundation would prove to be rotten to the core. The reality is that this — genocide and corruption — is who the USA has always been. "
Thank you for sharing all of this Xochitl
Wow. I have no words. I had never considered the idea of the “motherland” and the feminine and the way that traps us “however, the USA is more like a white, abusive, tyrannical father”
Thank you so much for your profound truth-telling, Xochitl! I have experienced many parallels with "her" and the misogynist-shit-storm that is family court that has utter contempt for children.
Powerful words. As a Canadian with half their family in the USA, I relate to this both from their experiences and mine here. Many I know have had to have the same painful breakup with Canada. Once you see, you can’t unsee.
Thank you for your voice. Your words are what so many are feeling, and it’s so important that none of us feel alone ❤️
So powerful, thank you for sharing your story. I’ve got a lot to think about. It resonates with me so much how living here is changing me in a way I do not like - and me with so much privilege.
This is so powerful and resonating Xochitl (as far as I can go being a ww disabled and abused) thank you for writing this and sharing how this country has gaslit you and how hard you have had to fight for your son. For me, I got SSDI in months. MONTHS. ?!?! My son got a 504 in WEEKS. I get cancer care with the speed of an e-mail. It’s always been an abusive whitewashed white supremacist place. I will leave too someday, but today I fight for you. ✊🏼
Thank you for putting these feelings into words that resonate at my core. While I enjoy the privilege of moving through the world as a white woman, I have followed a similar path of seeing what the indoctrination of this whiteness is doing to my soul, and how it impacts those I love. I am so sorry for the pain and anguish your family has gone through to support your child through this maze of destruction.
Thank you for this Xochitl! 💯❤️💯
Thank you so so much for sharing Xochitl! I deeply identify with some of what you wrote. And I am so sorry for the struggles you’ve experienced re:healthcare for your son.
I’m a white woman and I grew up in the Midwest. We weren’t overly patriotic but I used to feel really proud of the US. Especially around the military/war narrative (WWII, Afghanistan). We were bringing democracy to the world right? I started to change around the Iraq war (for some reason I didn’t have the same feelings about AFG). I hated our participation in this war and the manipulation it took to get there. I hated the faux patriotism it felt forced. Why for the love do we need all the fucking flags and national anthem before everything?! My then boyfriend, now husband joined the military to pay off student loans and I was proud of him but felt ambivalent about the military and all the fake feeling hoopla. Since then, I’ve seen how this country “values” its veterans and its atrocious. With each election since Gore v. Bush I’ve become more disillusioned. The government does not care about us. We don’t have a representative democracy. We worship profit over people. We need so much of this to die so we can rebuild it.