This resonates deeply with so much I’ve been sitting with.
I believe one of the greatest gifts we can offer others is our own confidence—because once we’re secure in who we are, our focus shifts from being seen to seeing others. And helping someone feel truly seen might be one of the most liberating acts we can give.
Our own liberation often begins by dismantling the blind spots we’ve built around our identity—defenses meant to protect how we see ourselves and the world. These blind spots feed confirmation bias and keep us from the truth. From reality. It takes courage to peek around them. But once we see what’s on the other side, the walls no longer serve us. They start to crumble.
When someone isn’t ready, though, they deny what they’ve seen. They reinforce the barrier—taller, wider—because that identity challenge feels too big. Too threatening. If they don’t feel safe—don’t believe they’ll still be loved, accepted, welcomed into the tribe—then the risk of being wrong feels unbearable.
And if we’re still busy protecting our own identities, we simply can’t offer the kind of empathy or safety that others need to begin their own liberation.
We can’t liberate everyone.
But by liberating ourselves, we make it far more possible.
"Not everybody wants to be saved."
Ooof. Yes.
This resonates deeply with so much I’ve been sitting with.
I believe one of the greatest gifts we can offer others is our own confidence—because once we’re secure in who we are, our focus shifts from being seen to seeing others. And helping someone feel truly seen might be one of the most liberating acts we can give.
Our own liberation often begins by dismantling the blind spots we’ve built around our identity—defenses meant to protect how we see ourselves and the world. These blind spots feed confirmation bias and keep us from the truth. From reality. It takes courage to peek around them. But once we see what’s on the other side, the walls no longer serve us. They start to crumble.
When someone isn’t ready, though, they deny what they’ve seen. They reinforce the barrier—taller, wider—because that identity challenge feels too big. Too threatening. If they don’t feel safe—don’t believe they’ll still be loved, accepted, welcomed into the tribe—then the risk of being wrong feels unbearable.
And if we’re still busy protecting our own identities, we simply can’t offer the kind of empathy or safety that others need to begin their own liberation.
We can’t liberate everyone.
But by liberating ourselves, we make it far more possible.
YES YES YES YES AND ALL OF THIS!!!! ❤️💞🌷
Beautifully written and so anchoring in the realities of getting free. Thank you