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Saira Rao's avatar

Great piece 🔥

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Karen's avatar

Totally spot on. This put into words what I've felt for so long, though I just usually expressed it as witnessing the complete lack of altruism and selfcenteredness of America as a country and many of its citizens (see: Covid pandemic).

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Jo Lorenz's avatar

“The USA, like a narcissistic family, hides its wrongs and overestimates its successes. This is seen in the denial and obfuscation about how the USA genocides indigenous people and enslaved Africans. In the USA, like a dysfunctional narcissistic family, competition and success are often prioritized over community wellbeing.” — so true!

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Libbey's avatar

Thank you for this piece. It’s a strong theme that I have also been focused on over the past 8 years, but most recently intensely during the last 4. Thank you for your clear identification of the primary commonalities between the two systems, however differing in scale. It truly does feel as though the floor has been ripped away underneath my feet. It’s radicalizing to see how many levels at which these abusive patterns play out.

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Maryann's avatar

a whole class could've been taught on this just watching the Carter funeral

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Andrea Stein Goldsworthy's avatar

“For anyone who grew up in a narcissistic family, this is all very familiar which is why many were sounding the alarm early in the rise of Trump. We knew what was coming. We could see it a mile away because if there’s one thing trauma survivors are great at, it’s recognizing patterns of abuse.” F yeah. Thank you for this Doc!!! 💚

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Amber Ivana's avatar

This is spot on. I actually wrote an essay on how the dynamics of a narcissistic family reflect the dynamics in this country (see below), but just with a different approach. This piece did a fantastic job of drawing the parallels between narcissism and white supremacy.

https://open.substack.com/pub/amberivana/p/america-the-epitome-of-narcissism?r=22aw44&utm_medium=ios

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